Trying sex toys for the first time? These will give you the ultimate charam sukh 

For DIY, anytime, anywhere, orgasms

Have you ever sat down with a bunch of women and talked about orgasms? Just a few best friends—like in Sex and the City, or Veere Di Wedding—discussing orgasms or charam sukh, as one of the characters in the film puts it. It’s not how men talk about sex, if they do at all. We, on the other hand, will tell each other exactly what worked with eyes lit up and expressions usually reserved for the times our parlour didi (your best friend and therapist) gives us a complimentary champi.

Why do we share? Because we know many women struggle to orgasm, and the big O is far too cathartic for our sisterhood to not experience regularly. So we share notes, exchange tips, and even recommend sex toys to each other.

In a recent Tweak article, a woman opened up about her experience of using a sex toy for the first time—gifted to her by a close friend. The first sex toy she used was MsChief Solo Bunny Air Pulse Massager. Later, she also tried and loved Leezu’s Pyaari and MyMuse’s Pop-wand. When we posted this on Instagram, many women reached out asking for more sex toy recommendations for first-timers. And why not? According to a survey by the intimacy essentials brand MyMuse, 69 per cent of female participants reported better orgasms when using sex toys.

Here then, are sex toys for beginners—they’re easy to look at (or disguise in plain sight), easy to use, and geared to help you get to know your body and what turns you on…again and again and again.

Sex toys that are perfect for beginners

Virtuoso by MsChief

If you don’t know yet what makes you orgasm, or just want the thrill of being penetrated for more than 10 seconds, this massager will be all you need. You can use it internally or externally. One side is a vibrating end that you can insert and let your G-spot thank you, especially if it has been abandoned for long, like the Indus Valley Civilisation. The other side is an air pulse stimulator that you can place on your clitoris to get your dose of multiple orgasms. You can go completely hands-free too by tucking the other end between your legs and just doing kegel-like movements to let it stimulate you. It’ll give you time to work on the other areas of your body because team work makes the dream work.

Breeze Suction Massager by MyMuse

This massager can feel like a 30ml shot of espresso (or these snack packs) when the afternoon slumps strike, small yet strong enough to charge you up. This tiny and discreet massager comes with suction technology that the brand claims mimics oral sex. You can use it on your nipples as well if you’d like a little self-foreplay. When you’re ready to orgasm, place it on your clitoris and move it in a vertical or circular motion. It has 10 speed settings for how powerful you’d like the vibrations to be, and they’ll make you go from ‘oh this is nice’ to ‘oh oh…will my clit survive?!’. Its runtime is 2.5 to 3 hours, so you can put in that sick leave and have orgasm marathons whenever you want.

Skore VibHer Multi-Mode Massager

This one comes with a ribbed tip if you prefer textures for extra pleasure. Its curved shaft makes insertion more comfortable, and with nine different modes of speed and vibration, which you can use depending on whether you’re in the mood for vanilla or wild. It’s also a more affordable option and available on Blinkit (check for availability in your area) if you’re too hot and bothered to wait for those interminable delivery times. The 90 minutes battery life means you will have to charge it more often, but you charge your Apple watch that often too, and does it ever take you to O-town after? No.

LoveBug by Leezu’s

Nobody does discreet like Leezu’s, sex-positive creator Leeza Mangaldas’ sexual wellness brand. The LoveBug massager looks like an earpod, but don’t be fooled by its tiny size. This sex toy packs a punch and has five playful suction modes to help you achieve an orgasm, or six. And just like an earpod, it comes with a charging case so you can keep your toy powered up and ready at any point, anywhere—which balances out its short 90-minute runtime too. You can carry it with you on your vacays, without worrying if the person behind the bag scanner is judging you. And at home, if your mom finds it on your bedside table, she’ll just assume you’ve been listening to a lot of Arijit Singh lately.

Sangya 11 by Sangya Project

It may be eight inches long and look slightly intimidating for first-timers, but Sangya 11 is nothing like that. Since it’s for insertion, the length actually works in your favour, and you’ll find the girth comfortable, and super flexible. Once inside, it bends along the gentle curves of your vaginal canal, almost like memory foam. The ribbed tip claims to give extra pleasure to those who are into that. With 10 powerful modes, you will surely find one that blows your mind.

Fiddle Massager by That Sassy Thing

If you’ve tried stimulating your clitoris using your finger, the Fiddle massager will hit home. You can put it on your finger and supercharge it. This feels more organic as you move your finger in the way you like—except it’s got a superpower now. It’s tiny, has nine power modes, so you can feel like you have a mini Iron Man whose only mission is to give you the wildest orgasms.