Dinner parties don't need to be boring, stuffy affairs

If you want to host a party, think of it as directing your own Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara dinner scene – an eclectic mix of people brought together, Hrithik Roshan cooking up some paella on his post-dive high and lots of laughs and leg-pulling among friends. You manage to create just the right vibe for an evening everyone will remember. But let’s be honest, while well-intentioned, most of us end up with something closer to the awkward dinner scene later on in the film when Kalki Koechlin’s character arrives unannounced – awkward silences, one person monopolising the conversation, and the stomps of flamenco dancers only increasing the tension (and blood pressure).

To host a party or gathering of any kind is no small feat – it’s about more than just food and décor. According to Pallavi Shetty, one of the driving forces behind Mumbai’s Luuma House (along with investors Jayesh Chheda, Vinayak B Shetty (Vinod) and Ajay R Shetty), organising a memorable gathering doesn’t start with a quirky theme, like ‘dress like your ex’ or ‘girl bosses only’, it takes a little more thought than that. With Luuma, she has successfully created a space designed for connection—long tables meant for big groups, shareable dishes that spark conversations, and an ambience so cosy it feels like a warm hug.

With over 25 years of experience in hospitality, Shetty has seen it all and believes that when it comes to bringing people together, it’s not so much the details that make a party special but rather the intention behind it. “A host’s warmth, attention to detail, and ability to make guests feel valued are the secret ingredients to a memorable gathering.”

Whether blending old friends with new ones or using the power of lighting and music to create a welcoming atmosphere, her tips can turn any gathering into an unforgettable experience. Here’s Shetty’s advice for hosting with heart, whether a casual dinner party or an engagement party for your best friend, as you try not to go broke.

How to host a party with heart

Set the tone early and make it personal

Hosting a gathering is more than just getting people in a room — it’s about making them feel seen and part of something special. “To create a truly inclusive atmosphere, it’s all about setting the tone early,” says Shetty. This starts with greeting guests warmly, introducing them with a fun anecdote, and asking questions that spark stories, like shared memories. These thoughtful touches naturally break down walls, transforming small talk into meaningful conversations.

For Shetty, the magic of a gathering lies in personal touches. “Whether it’s a casual dinner or a more formal event, little touches like sharing a family recipe or toasting to something meaningful brings everyone together,” she explains. At Luuma House, this philosophy is reflected in every detail, from dishes designed for sharing to a warm ambience that makes guests feel at home.

Icebreakers that actually work

Breaking the ice can sometimes feel like chipping away at an iceberg with a toothpick, and other times, it’s taking the Titanic route – not advisable. “We might kick things off with a game or a fun toast, letting everyone share a little something.” She says to keep things light enough for people to start feeling comfortable and open up. “As the host, your own openness sets the tone – if you’re relaxed, they will be too.” If you’re unsure where to start, try an icebreaker card game to help kick things off (check out this one).

Food that sparks conversation

“The best dishes are the ones that invite everyone to dive in and share,” says Shetty. She recommends serving family-style meals or tapas-style plates that keep things casual and interactive. “It takes the pressure off formality and encourages guests to chat over what’s on the table,” she explains. Bonus: small plates mean no one’s awkwardly chewing when the conversation gets good.

It’s all about the setting

“Ambience is everything—it sets the mood before anyone even speaks,” Shetty emphasises. At Luuma House, soft lighting, earthy tones, and a touch of greenery create a warm yet lively atmosphere. If you’ve been bitten by the creative keeda, you can pick up some design inspiration from your favourite celebrity homes, DIY a terrarium, or you could start simple with what Shetty suggests – candles or fairy lights for a cosy, comforting vibe. “Subtle décor that adds to the warmth is key,” she says.

The graceful goodbye

When it’s time to wrap up, Shetty uses subtle cues to wind down the evening. “Dimming the lights, offering a final coffee or tea, or changing the music tempo can signal that it’s time to transition,” she explains. The trick is to ensure guests leave feeling like they’ve had a full, enjoyable evening—not like they’ve been rushed out the door.