The biggest dating mistakes your zodiac sign makes and how to avoid them
New Year, new online dating strategy
2020 was the year of long-distance relationships and online dating as pubs and borders shut down. But just like we weren’t prepared to spend 24 hours locked in with our family, virtual relationships began to best us. Our online dating mistakes became the wet blanket that quickly flopped over a conversation before the spark even had a chance to turn into a flame.
“Some people just need face-to-face interaction. I don’t know how to flirt with someone over text messages,” grumbled a close friend. Earlier in June, she signed up on her first dating app. She was ghosted more times than she found a match. Going through her messages, her true Virgo nature shone through. Her monosyllabic responses and biting sarcastic reactions didn’t translate well over text. She managed to hit all the online dating mistakes you’d expect from the logical zodiac sign.
What was even more irritating was that another friend was thriving with her matches. A melodramatic romantic, she fell in love with every second person she swiped on. But eventually, her Libran indecision kicked in and she lost out on three potential virtual dates who got tired of waiting for her to make a choice.
Call me crazy, but it really felt like these online dating mistakes were written in the stars.
I don’t believe that your janam patri is going to foretell your destiny. But if a few celestially-ordained tweaks can help us find love, they’re worth considering, right?
Bumble’s astrology expert Tamanna C decodes the common online dating mistakes each zodiac sign tends to make, and helps you overcome them.
Online dating mistakes your zodiac sign makes — and how to fix them
Passionate, motivated and confident in their abilities, Aries love to take charge. But according to Tamanna, when it comes to your romantic relationships, you tend to give away control faster than you can say “Je t’aime”.
Common mistake while online dating: “You get impatient very easily and judge the other person without giving them a chance,” says Tamanna.
Hold your horses and don’t unmatch just yet. You get creative while talking to people, but among your online dating mistakes is feeling disheartened and moving on fast when you feel underwhelmed by that initial conversation. Give it a few days before making your judgement.
Who you can find your match with: “People who are independent and have a life of their own.”
Ruled by Venus, Taurus has a liking for all things beautiful and lavish. It’s no surprise then that you “love to pamper yourselves and your partners – it’s your way of expressing love when in a relationship,” says Tamanna.
Common mistake while online dating: Stubborn, calculating and intuitive, you can have a wave of fiery anger when someone gets on your bad side.
True to this nature, you’re careful about whom you open up to. You let the other person do all the talking, sharing little about yourself. Shying away from revealing personal information can present as giving mixed signals to a prospective partner. Find a balance between being flirtatious Falguni who’s playing hard to get and making yourself emotionally unavailable.
Who you can find your match with: “Those who are in touch with their emotions and aren’t afraid to show it.”
Geminis are social butterflies by nature, flitting from party to party, person to person, and finding love interests around the way. You’d assume that they fall in love with every remotely interesting person they meet but Geminis can be very guarded.
When it comes to being in a relationship, you are comfortable showing your partner your vulnerable side. Trusting someone you love comes very naturally to you.
Common mistake while online dating: Being as sociable and friendly as you are can come across as a little too enthusiastic at times.
The quintessential Gemini boldness of being able to approach a complete unknown outside a restaurant and walk away with their phone number works in person. But through a screen, your humour may not always come across as intended. Ease into the conversation without overtaking it.
Who you can find your match with: “People who love being creative and thinking out of the box.”
The loyal, emotional Cancer is nurturing and caring towards friends and family – there’s no real distinction between the two, to them.
You trust your partners, which can otherwise be difficult for you. You have self-awareness which can make you more likely to recognise your insecurities, making it easier for you to deal with them.
Common mistake while online dating: Cancerians are among the more emotional of the zodiac bunch. The desire to protect themselves can make them cautious when talking to people. As they warm up to their match, the sensitive side comes out.
But once they dive in, there’s a chance of a quick fizzle. “You end up getting bored too easily and disengaging from your match in no time,” says Tamanna. You could overcome that by taking things slower, engaging in entertaining activities together, and just giving the other person a chance to shine before you call it quits.
Who you can find your match with: “Those who are responsible and committed.”
These queens of the jungle are territorial and protective when in a relationship. Ruled by the Sun, you’ll easily spot a Leo in a crowd because they’ll position themselves at the centre of it.
But that doesn’t mean they are entirely selfish either. “You are mindful of the other person’s likes and dislikes, and manoeuvre your decisions keeping those in mind,” says Tamanna.
Common mistake while online dating: Facing a lion personality isn’t for everyone. Your fierce personality can command a room, but through a phone screen, you can come across as impatient and aggressive, intimidating the other person without getting to know them better.
Allow the conversation to take its course by soothing your inner lion’s desire to bite down when you feel you’re losing interest.
Who you can find your match with: “People who take charge of situations and can deal with pressure in a peaceful way.”
Typically introverted, Virgos seem to willingly “step out of your comfort zones by becoming more talkative and being more emotionally expressive,” adds Tamanna.
Common mistake while online dating: The practicality and logical approach to life of Virgos doesn’t always translate in digital interactions. You play your cards very close to the chest, with monosyllabic, often monotonous replies that can indicate little enthusiasm to the other person in the conversation.
You can’t keep waiting for someone else to initiate conversation and keep it going. It may stress you out a bit, but take the plunge and say Hi to the person you’ve been eyeing in your inbox.
Who you can find your match with: “People who have an eye for detail and seek happiness from the smaller pleasures of life.”
Libras thrive when coupled up. Unleashing their idealistic romantic ideas on to the unsuspecting world, they know just how to woo, making them perfect marriage material. If you can get them to make a decision about it, that is.
Tamanna says, “You love to be loved, and so when you’re in a relationship, you become more flexible – letting your partner take charge so you can just go with the flow.”
Common mistake while online dating: Libras have no fear when it comes to steering conversations, making a move and breaking the ice. But taking charge of a conversation can easily devolve into drowning out the other person’s opinions.
You’re all about seeking equilibrium and symmetry, visually represented by the sign’s scale, but that becomes a struggle because of a proclivity for indecisiveness.
You’re unclear about your intentions and expectations from a relationship and hence, confuse the other person,” Tamanna ruminates. Have a think about what you want out of a relationship before you dive in – is it a passing fling? Maybe this could be the real deal and you’ll find true love. Instead of playing games, it’ll be easier for both parties involved to have some clarity from the get-go, even if you feel it organically growing into something deeper later on.
Who you can find your match with: “People who are hardworking, yet have a fun side.”
All the moody mysteriousness of Scorpios flies out the window when it comes to love. You may be overly cautious in life, but in relationships, Scorpios are more open to their partners, and even deeply possessive.
But a softer side when besotted may not always be a good thing for you.
Common mistake while online dating: When Scorpios feel they’ve been hurt, they completely shut down to any future possibilities. “You often get too sensitive and end up jumping to conclusions without knowing the full picture,” says Tamanna.
You take your sweet time opening up to the person across the screen. Perhaps even coming across as shy and aloof at first. But once you’ve decided on taking things to the next level, you’re happy to jump into the driver’s seat.
Throwing caution to the wind has its bonuses but going too far too fast can result in a crash and burn that Scorpios take a long time to recover from.
Who you can find your match with: “People who are family-oriented and love spending time at home, or those who are happy in their own comfort zones.”
A Sagittarian can keep you laughing for hours. They’re full of energy, ready to take things ahead at full speed in life, but in relationships they can be a little more composed and controlling. Even then, it’s done sensitively and emotionally.
“You are more open to taking inputs from the person you are in a relationship with,” says Tamanna.
Common mistake while online dating: You can make very attentive partners. You exude confidence while talking to people, even if you don’t know them, especially if you find them interesting.
But your inquiring mind can become too persistent and pushy at times. This can seen a little unnatural and have people wondering what your real intentions are.
Give it a little breather occasionally and enjoy your independence like your true free-spirited self.
Who you can find your match with: “People who are adventurous, fearless and passionate about having new experiences.”
Enthusiastic, ambitious and emotional by nature, Capricorns have enough of the go-getter energy to power up a rechargeable battery. They know what they want and work to get it, which comes with an understanding of being very grounded in reality. It can make you a little more stoic and impatient with the slow pace of your surroundings, including the people.
All of this, Tamanna says, eases up when in a relationship, where your patient side comes out. “You become more tolerant and considerate toward others’ emotions and needs.”
Common mistake while online dating: In an effort to keep things real, you like to take your time to get to know the other person and measure your compatibility. This constant contemplation and step-by-step approach to meeting the end goal could seem a little too reserved when it comes to creating that initial spark.
It also has you constantly reliving the follies and faults of past relationships in your conversations, giving the other person an impression that you aren’t ready to move on.
Among the major online dating mistakes are looking at dating through a list of goals to achieve. Instead of seeing it as a step ladder, try and keep yourself at the moment and enjoy each experience as it is.
Who you can find your match with: “People who are protective of you and take your emotions seriously.”
Rebels at heart, Aquarius let go of their inhibitions and are ready to free-fall when in love. They’re all about trying out new fun activities, especially the more unconventional ones with their partner.
A general suspicion of authority mean you’re always trying to find out the ‘hidden truths’, even if there’s nothing left to unearth. Sometimes that can result in an adventure, other times, it can be quite a disaster for the person at the receiving end.
Common mistake while online dating: “You are too curious and interrogative about the other person right from the start, not allowing them to open up at their own pace,” says Tamanna.
A talkative nature and desire to learn about unknown things and people will have you ready with a list of questions as soon as the person opens up even just a bit. When they give you an inch, you want a foot-long, and that can easily backfire. Take what you get and give it time.
Who you can find your match with: “Philosophical, artistic and intellectual people. It’s all about wisdom and knowledge for you.”
The kind and gentle Pisces become a little too eager to please in their bid to maintain peace. It can become stressful when people take advantage of your empathetic nature, mistaking it for naivety and leaving you unsettled.
“You become calmer when in a relationship as you are overcome by a sense of security, and give up the need to do things just to please others.”
Common mistake while online dating: According to Tamanna, you need to take initiative and “be more talkative rather than waiting for others to do all the talking.”
You’re more than happy to lend a listening ear — whether it’s about life, love, struggles or personal experiences, your friendly disposition makes you easy to connect with. But this can also allow others to steamroll the conversation, giving you little chance of voicing your own thoughts and feelings.
Who you can find your match with: “People who do everything with dedication, be it work or family life.”